The Parents We Mean To Be

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A wake-up call for a national crisis in parenting??-??and a deeply helpful book for those who want to see their own behaviors as parents with the greatest possible clarity.Harvard psychologist Richard Weissbourd argues incisively that parents??-??not peers, not television??-??are the primary shapers of their children's moral lives. And yet, it is parents' lack of self-awareness and confused priorities that are dangerously undermining children's development.Through the author's own original field research, including hundreds of rich, revealing conversations with children, parents, teachers, and coaches, a surprising picture emerges. Parents' intense focus on their children's happiness is turning many children into self-involved, fragile conformists.The suddenly widespread desire of parents to be closer to their children??-??a heartening trend in many ways??-??often undercuts kids' morality. Our fixation with being great parents??-??and our need for our children to reflect that greatness??-??can actually make them feel ashamed for failing to measure up. Finally, parents' interactions with coaches and teachers??-??and coaches' and teachers' interactions with children??-??are critical arenas for nurturing, or eroding, children's moral lives.Weissbourd's ultimately compassionate message??-??based on compelling new research??-??is that the intense, crisis-filled, and profoundly joyous process of raising a child can be a powerful force for our own moral development.